Finding love used to be a matter of knowing the right people. Friends are often great ways to meet new people. When friends introduce you to someone, the battle of finding love is half over. If your friends know you well enough, they are going to hook you up with people they think you are going to like. If they keep striking out, however, you need to strike out on your own. You can go to bars, but finding love this way is hard. Many people in bars are looking for something less than a lifetime, and quite often the atmosphere in a bar is not conducive to finding love meant to last a lifetime.

There are many finding love on the Internet today, and the choices you have are more numerous than ever. It used to be something no one talked about, but today, people are more open about finding love online, and they are encouraging their single friends to do the same. The shame once associated with finding love this way is gone, and some very attractive and successful people are going about finding someone this way. If you sign up for an online dating site, you aren’t going to run into a pack of losers. You may find exactly what you are looking for in another person.

If you want to find love, look through a few dating sites before you commit. Some sites are free, but you might find more security in a site that has a subscription fee. Look through some of the profiles, and see how the site works before you sign up, and don’t be afraid to sign up for more than one if you so choose. Be honest about who you are when filling out your profile and don’t use someone else’s picture. Finding love has everything to do with honesty, and if someone contacts you based on false information in your profile, it is never going to work out.

Properly, professionally constructed sex education workshops are not mucky or pornographic and the students will come from all walks of life. Sitting next to each other may be sassy 30-somethings earning good money in top jobs, school dinner ladies in their 40’s looking for some spice in their tired relationships, young first time mothers who want sex but are too tired to even think about it, singles newly on the dating scene or empty nesters in their 50’s whose kids have just left to go to University who have turned round to look at their partner and said “who are you?” All these people have in common is a hunger to change the sex and relationships in their lives. Someone once said knowledge is power - knowledge is also confidence.

The confidence to get what we want out of our relationships, to ask for and get what we want is probably the most difficult to achieve. Sure we are great at designing the new kitchen, sorting where we are going on our holidays, buying the new car, but when it comes to saying “when you leave your dirty clothes all over the floor it makes me feel like a doormat!” Where are we?

Well, how does your relationship with your partner rate? Do you really discuss and finish conversations with each other so that you both feel heard and understood? Are you angry with your partner, with holding sex as a punishment and don’t know how to resolve this?

If you want to learn to cook well you go and have lessons and you practice. If you want to have the most beautiful abundant garden in the neighborhood through your own effort you learn from books, you join a garden club and you try out new and different things. If you want the best relationship in the world with the most passionate and loving sex you………Well what do you do?

Mostly what is learned about relationships comes from observing others, the media and if people are lucky, from good teachers at school setting the right example. Too often dysfunctional family relationships end in poor relationship skills. But this can be changed and new ways of doing things can be learned by making a conscious effort to educate us. Any personal development program whether at work or in your personal life is time well spent and the benefits far outweigh the time and effort needed to embrace them fully. Life coaches are just people who coach you on life. Select a good one you can trust and follow a program either on your own or with your partner. Find out in your area where there is a program for more information on sexual relationships. It is important to have factual and accurate information on sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy but far more important to have information on pleasure, commitment and responsibility in our sexual relationships too.

It is important to learn how your body responds to touch, to erotic thought processes, to seeing and hearing arousing images and sounds. Whether what you taste or smell is arousing too. All these factors influence the arousal process and it is no good getting into a relationship and expecting your partner to know. How can they possibly know if you don’t know yourself? Of course part of the fun is experimenting and finding out, but many couples do not experiment and end up frustrated in more ways than one.

Betty Dodson the New Yorker who for the past 30 years and more has advocated good sex education for the best relationships, is still finding it an uphill struggle to convince people that their relationship will stand a better chance of survival if couples educate themselves in this way so that they are effectively able to communicate their needs.

As a society, we’ve become so conditioned to the fairy tale of “Happily Ever After” that many people actually feel as if their life is lacking something if they’re not a part of a couple.

But sadly, just like in the movies, most peoples’ thoughts seem to stop at the part when the music swells and the happy couple says “I do” and loses themselves in that first magic kiss as husband and wife. They don’t think about what happens after the honeymoon.

Considering that about 43% of all marriages in the U.S. ends in divorce, perhaps a class on the realities of building and maintaining a strong healthy marriage should become required before signing on the dotted line of a marriage license.

Having a happy marriage doesn’t just happen by accident. It doesn’t happen because you’re “in love” or “perfect” for each other. Marriage is a partnership, and like any partnership, it takes commitment, dedication and hard work to help it to grow strong.

Here are some tips given by couples whose marriages are strong and healthy. Follow them, adapt them to work in your own marriage, and you’ll be on your way to having what we all want — a happy marriage!

1. Communicate. It’s important that you keep the lines of communication open. Especially when things go wrong. There are so many outside influences that can affect a marriage — jobs, family, friends, hobbies, education, church. If you’re suddenly not being able to spend time together, or you’re fighting about money, it’s especially important to talk about what’s going on.

2. Listen. It’s a sad fact that we are often more polite to strangers than we are to the people we love the most. If your spouse is trying to talk to you, whether it’s to find out what you want for dinner, to tell you about their day, or to discuss a problem in your marriage, give them the same courtesy you’d give a complete stranger, and LISTEN! Don’t try to finish their sentences, don’t try to solve their problems, and don’t ever say, “I told you so!” Here’s an especially apt poem, written by Ogden Nash:

To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the wedding cup,
Whenever you’re wrong, admit it;
Whenever you’re right, shut up.

3. Create rituals and family traditions. Every successful couple has their own private rituals - things they do that has a special meaning just to them. So whether it’s getting your spouse coffee every morning, a special touch that means “I love you”, or creating couple signals for “Let’s get out of here, or “No, I don’t want to buy a timeshare for $95,000!” find your own. Remember some of your favorite childhood family traditions, and incorporate them or start new ones in your own couple. Someday, you’ll look back on each time as a treasured memory.

4. Go on a date. Couples who have been together for thirty, forty and even fifty years or more say that one of the things that has kept their marriage strong is going out on a “date” with their spouse on a regular basis. If money is tight, try taking a walk together, going to a dollar movie, or even to a drive-in. Spending quality “couple-time” helps to reinforce the special feelings that made you fall in love with each other in the first place.

5. Agree on money matters early. Amazingly, many couples never discuss money except in the most superficial ways until after they’re married. One of the leading causes of arguments in marriages is because of a difference in how money is handled in the couple. Before you walk down the isle, discuss your feelings about things like credit, paying bills and saving money. Talk about how you will pay expenses, and who will handle the money. Finding out after the fact that you have major differences is only going to lead to long term problems.

6. Love and Respect. No matter what happens outside of your marriage, it’s vital that you and your spouse always treat each other with love and respect. There are some simple rules that have worked for couples for the last 80 years that still apply today. They include: Never go to bed angry. Kiss each other every time you come home, or before going out. Say “I love you” every single day. Mind your manners, and say “Please” and “Thank-you”. Do something for the one you love every day. Just because. Occasionally write love letters to each other. Laugh at his/her jokes, no matter how bad they are, or how often you’ve heard them. Don’t sweat the little things. Try something new once in a while.

7. Maintain a commitment to your marriage. This can be especially difficult today, but it’s important that you put your marriage first. If you’re committed to making your marriage a success, and you know that your partner shares your commitment, there’s nothing that the two of you can’t accomplish.

And you’ll be one of the lucky few that have a truly happy marriage!

Speed daters rotate from station to station every few minutes and meet a new potential mate at each station. Each dater takes turns asking the other person at their station questions until the clock expires and then they move onto the next station. Each dater takes notes on each date so they can sort of who they do or do not want to see again after the speed dating session. At most speed dating events the woman stay at the same station for the entire session while the males move station to station to meet each woman.

Those in favor of speed dating claim it is a much better, cheaper and safer method of meeting people than going into a bar. They also point out that it is much more efficient than other dating services, such as online dating, since you meet each person face-to-face and can gather information on them quickly. Also, physical attraction is much easier to judge in person than it is simply looking at pictures online.

A unique feature of speed dating is that participants are not allowed to ask each other out directly. Only those daters that have expressed mutual interest in each other will be given contact information to get in touch with their potential mate outside of the speed dating arena. This is a plus for those people who have a hard time handling rejection since they never have to deal with it face-to-face. Of course there is a possibility that no one will be interested in seeing you again. In this case, you would leave the speed dating event feeling much worse than before the event and you’d be unlikely to attend a speed dating event in the future.

Most speed dating services charge between $25 and $60 per person. The fee normally includes a couple of free drinks or a meal or snacks. Most speed dating sessions have between 50 and 150 participants, half male and half female.

Let’s say the average cost for a speed dating event is $40. Let’s also assume that there will be 55 single people the opposite sex at the event. To be introduced to 1 eligible single it would cost you $0.73 ($40 divided by 55). So the cost of meeting 100 potential soul mates is about $73.00.

One negative fact of speed dating is that you are forced to spend your time on “dates” with people you are not attracted to and have no interest in wasting both your time and money. Of course it’s only a few minutes and will be well worth it if you end up meeting someone special at that event.

If you do decide to give speed dating a try just be sure to follow one simple rule. No matter what happens… HAVE FUN!

What is the reason for this? Happiness stems from being loved and wanted, one of the basic psychological needs in each of us that demands fulfillment. People are willing to go to any lengths to find love. Nations have gone to war, kings have abdicated their thrones, and star-crossed lovers have made suicide pacts - all for love.

On the other hand, murders are committed, people exhibit aggression, others withdraw into their shell, and some even take their own lives - all for a lack of love. The world’s first murder was a result of Cain’s envy, because he perceived that God loved his brother, Abel, more. Marilyn Monroe had the world at her feet, with fame and fortune, but overdosed because she did not have the one thing she yearned for more than anything else - to be loved and cherished.

The search for this “sweet mystery of life” even leads young men and women to sell their souls and bodies for what they crave. They know such love and attention will not endure, yet they let their hearts rule their minds, and their emotions conquer plain logic.

The word “love” may be only four letters long, but it is the most powerful word in the world, because it describes the awesome power residing in every human heart - emotion! But, it is a double-edged weapon. It can spur on an individual to do heroic deeds on one hand, as well as cause death and destruction on the other.

Love is, therefore, the engine that drives on people to accomplish the impossible. But this engine, like any other, requires a certain brand of fuel. Frequent refueling with the “I LOVE YOU” brand of high octane fuel will keep this engine purring lovingly. And, the love will be returned in equal measure, because those that are loved find it easy to give love back.

Being loved, and knowing that they are loved, makes people confident, relaxed and happy. Look around you. If you see anybody “floating” along with a secret smile on their face and a tune on their lips, you are looking at someone that is loved - and knows it!

Recently, a well-known psychologist was working with a teenage boy who was having serious problems. As they talked, the boy was asked as to whether his parents loved him. The teenager looked up sadly and said, “I don’t know, but if they do, they’ve never told me!”

Please don’t make the same mistake. To love without saying so is not enough. People need to be told that they are loved. Again, and again, and again! It is cruel and thoughtless to leave our loved ones in doubt about our affection for them. It’s no use regretting later, when they are no more there to hear you.

If you have a friend worth loving,
Love him. Yes, and let him know
That you love him, ere life’s evening
Tinge his brow with sunset glow.
Why should good words ne’er be said
Of a friend - till he is dead?
- Anonymous

The hallmark of an enlightened partnership is intentional design. Great relationships don’t just happen, mediocre ones do. If you are like most people, you yearn for relationships you can trust. You want to be able to depend on people. You want relationships characterized by ease, clarity and harmonious cooperation. The good news is it is easier than you think. With a little bit of education and skill you can design relationships that foster trust through clarity and agreement.

Clarifying the purpose of your relationship and crafting agreements is a foundational part of the design process for generating trust. The conversations you will have will illuminate what is truly important to each person. This knowledge is essential in creating relationships that work well over the long term. If you create agreements that reflect the authentic motivation of each person and you plan for predictable breakdowns in a way that fosters accountability you can relax into a new certainty and trust in your most important relationships.

What Is an Agreement?

What is an agreement really? An agreement is a method for coordinating action between two or more people. It is supposed to smooth the way for efficient harmonious interaction. But why do people so often not live up to their word? Usually an agreement fails because it does not reflect the true desire and motivation of all the people making the agreement. People who agree to something because they are afraid of what will happen if they don’t agree, will more than likely not follow through, unless they are pressured to do so.

It is important to know that agreements alone will not secure the safety and dependability we all yearn for. For an agreement to be effective the internal motivator that drives it should be so compelling that the people involved are aroused to fulfill their part of their own volition. In other words, an agreement you can count on has to come from the right place.

Why Am I Agreeing to This?

That means that each person must answer the question, “For the sake of what am I agreeing to this?” This reason needs to be explicit. You can’t assume the same thing motivates everyone. You have to question, discuss and clarify. Successful agreements are always driven by a clear purpose that inspires action. There are two very important things that need to be part of a process for creating agreements that will work, a clear and inspiring purpose for your agreements and a process for restoring trust when an agreement has been broken.

A good purpose statement for sharing household chores might be something like, “We agree to share in household chores so that we can enjoy a relationship that is free from resentment and filled with trust, intimacy, passion and fun!” For business agreements something like, “The purpose of the following agreements is to ignite an unstoppable force for imagination, creativity and collective accomplishment.” It is also a good idea to post this declaration in a place where it will be seen frequently by the participating members, e.g., refrigerator, coffee room, bulletin board.

Once you have crafted an inspiring purpose statement for your agreements and you have listed the agreements, check to see that all the agreements are consistent with your purpose. Then you need to determine a protocol for handling the inevitable broken agreement. This protocol needs to be something everyone accepts and is willing to use.

Agreements Aren’t Always Kept

Yes, it may be sad but true that even with the best intentions, sometimes agreements aren’t kept. You agree to be on time and you get a flat tire. You agree to handle dinner tonight and you feel ill or exhausted from the day. The best kind of protocol is one that quickly restores trust and completely neutralizes any disappointment or hard feelings. This is important because we want to make sure the memory of the event doesn’t carry forward any resentment, blame or guilt. Any of these feelings are toxic to a harmonious future.

We have found that using amendments to restore broken agreements is a stellar solution. When someone does not keep an agreement for whatever reason, they offer an amendment to the other person. It is much better if someone does not have to ask for an amendment, but the person who did not keep the agreement readily offers it.

Apologies and Amendments

An amendment is different from an apology. An apology includes saying “I’m sorry” and how you will handle things differently in the future. An amendment is something you do to make up for whatever disappointment or bad feeling happened when the agreement was not kept as promised. An amendment is not a punishment. It is an opportunity to restore trust. What you offer for an amendment depends on the intensity of inconvenience or distress the other person experienced because you did not keep the agreement as promised.

Imagine someone who is late for a meeting and says upon arrival, “I apologize for being late. I’m sorry you were kept waiting and wondering. How about I bring flowers for the front desk tomorrow to make up for it?” Offering an apology and an amendment is a winning combination. It is a very grownup move that rekindles trust and allows everyone involved to bounce back to a very high level of teamwork.
Amendments work best when they are pleasurable for everyone involved. Treating someone to lunch is a better amendment than cleaning their car, unless of course you enjoy cleaning cars. Buying flowers tomorrow is better than doing a big thing in two or three weeks.

No Big Deal?

Sometimes people want to pretend that the agreement being broken was “no big deal” and an amendment is not necessary. We caution you against reacting this way consistently. It sends the wrong message. It is important for people to keep their word, to be accountable for their promises. The ill feelings that come from broken agreements can build up over time. Using amendments is a great way of averting the kind of disastrous blow-ups that happen when people get fed up.

It is a good idea to bring a light heart, a sense of humor and your creativity to the amendment process. Remember the purpose of an amendment is to restore trust and harmony to a relationship.

Written Agreements or Verbal Agreements?

Sometimes people balk at the idea of written agreements. It seems like too much trouble. But if you take a step back and look at most of the failures in your relationships you will probably notice most of them came from lack of clarity and alignment. How many times have you had a different recollection of a conversation than the other person having the conversation? It is one of the most common problems in relationships, having different perceptions of the same event. If the agreements are written down, you won’t spend time arguing about them. Also, if everyone involved in creating the agreements is clear enough to write them down, chances are they know what they are and understand them. We are not talking about every agreement you ever make in the relationship, but most certainly the ones that lay the foundation for your relationship.

Here is an agreement crafted by two clients with the help of our coaching. We think you will agree that the clarity and strength shines through.

Our Relationship

The purpose of our relationship is to love, trust and nurture one another so that we both grow and achieve our full potential as soul mates, lovers and friends.

We promise to …

• Have fun together
• Share passion and fulfill each others sexual desires
• Focus on things that we appreciate about one another and acknowledge them
• Experience the things we have loved as if we were doing them for the first time
• Treat each other with kindness and respect
• Create a relationship where we can experience peace and contentment
• Be lighthearted and not take ourselves too seriously

• Experience unconditional love
• Appreciate our strengths and accept our faults
• Communicate openly and freely with ultimate trust and truth
• Celebrate the relationship as the most important thing in our lives
• Laugh a lot!!!
• Share trust, love, intimacy to the deepest level possible
• Have dreams together and share the journey of them coming true

In order to fulfill these promises we will…

• Make time for that “Start the Day Hug”
• Spend 10 to 30 minutes a day for Couple Time and Alone Time
• Make our love visible with notes and cards
• Spend a minimum of 2 weekends per month alone together
• Have 1 relationship night per week
• Enjoy regular “Holding Time” – 5 minutes or more each day
• Share 2 energy or visualization sessions per week
• Have 2 Heart to Heart Talks per week

• Weekly “Support Review”
• Review our triggers once a month
• Pick a picture on the relationship creation boards and talk about what it feels like to achieve that
• Take turns planning a “Date Day” twice per month

We agree that we both will …

• Make our relationship a priority
• Do whatever it takes to make our relationship mutually satisfying
• Acknowledge each other frequently

• Be emotionally supportive to one another
• Be personally responsible for our own experience
• Be honest in all ways• Have the right to say no without losing each others love
• Create an environment conducive to love-making
• Have a period of intimate sharing before sex
• Be sensitive to each others needs and desires
• Be responsible for our own sexual satisfaction
• Communicate through any upsets until they are resolved to our mutual satisfaction

• Always tell the truth about our thoughts and feelings
• Be responsible in our communications, i.e. to speak in “I” sentences and to not cast blame• Clear our resentments and upsets daily with each other
• Spend time looking into what’s going on with ourselves first, e.g., using the CURE Upset Resolution Process in order to avoid blaming the other
• Seek outside support when we are stuck
• Learn from an upset
• Work on resolving unresolved issues from the past
• Agree that it is OK to disagree
• Not use these agreements to control or manipulate each other
• Be responsible for keeping these agreements and to use an amendment system to restore trust and harmony in case they are broken

We know that the purpose of these agreements is to help us continually enjoy the precious treasure that our relationship is with out any distracting discord or hurt feelings.

Clarity is Power

Can you imagine the conversations these two people would have had to write all that down? Do you think those conversations would have assured they were both on the same page with one another and they had a pretty good idea what they could count on one another for? Do you think they would have enjoyed a superior level of trust in their relationship with one another? You bet! And so would anyone else with the foresight to plan for success.

The whole process of crafting an agreement for your relationship should be enjoyable. Don’t try and do it all in one day. Gather information through informal conversations that are mostly about getting to know one another. Then as the relationship is maturing you will see the right time to have a more formal conversation about designing your relationship for trust.

By: Paul and Layne Cutright

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Paul and Layne Cutright have been teaching secrets and strategies for successful relationships at home and at work since 1976. They are authors of multiple books, including their best seller, You’re Never Upset for the Reason You Think. They offer a variety of free relationship resources at their web site – www.PaulandLayne.com. Subscribe to their Weekly Relationship Inspiration Program at–www.PaulandLayne.com/Inspire - and receive their acclaimed How to Create Successful Relationships e-Course.

So you want to meet someone online who might be a friend you’ve been hoping to meet for sometime, or maybe a person you wish to spend the remainder of your life with. Either way, you would be meeting him or her on a social network - in one of the numerous totally free adult dating sites. Welcome aboard!

Online dating websites are virtual hubs created with the end view of gathering people of different genders, nationalities, races and ages under one roof. They are places where cultural differences have found one language that “builds rather than destroys”: love.

How to launch your successful date-quest:

1. Remain Anonymous Until You Are Ready to Divulge Your Identity

One great thing about online dating sites for free is that you can keep a low-profile or create an entirely anonymous character. Although this can sometimes be unprogressive since people won’t talk with a stranger, this gives you the power to withhold your true identity until you’ve found the right person - who might also like you!

But if you’re really serious about landing a date online, then it’s probably a good idea to share a little bit more than just a picture. People usually search through online dating sites according to age groups. It’s a good way to get connected with people of the same age or from the same city as you. Although a picture can paint a thousand words about yourself, a little bit information about your identity will definitely increase your chances of connecting with someone …who could be the right one.

2. Meet thousands of users from different age groups, gender and race.

Don’t get trapped with one poor choice. Establish a wide network of friends and determine who among them you would most likely share more information about yourself. This gives you a lot of options to find your match, rather than get stuck with someone you’d rather play Pokemon than to be with.

Another good thing about online dating sites is that different users from different parts of the globe can access it as long as they have internet connection. Forget about travel fees or long distance phone patches just to talk with someone from another part of the globe. Just login to your online dating account and you’re good to go. Meet a man from Paris, a woman from Egypt or a rock star from Kentucky, and a thousand more users whom you can build lasting friendships with. Check their profiles and get to know them well before you actually share a phone call or voice chat online.

You have the power of choice. Free online dating sites give you the ultimate power to choose who to befriend with, and who to share your life with. Unlike traditional boy-meets-girl situations, which can end up on irritating phone calls and incidents of stalking when you decline an offer, online dating eliminates the nuisance and just leaves you with the excitement of a new relationship.

3. Free local dating site offers its users security.

Most online users prefer keeping their information top-secret; online dating sites have thought about this well ahead of you, in fact they have installed complicated software to guarantee that your best interest is taken care of. Unless it is with your express consent, online dating sites will not reveal any information you have shared with them. They maintain the highest level of online security just to make sure that they will be in keeping with your trust.

If you trust a friend on the online dating site, and you feel safe about sharing some personal information like phone numbers or your personal email address, then you can share these with them at you own risk.

In the overall, free local dating sites, when utilized properly, are great places to meet and enjoy people who no matter how diversified their cultures and races are, they are basically the same: all yearning for acceptance, all wanting to belong.

For friendship or for love? Who knows what awaits you until you go online , and give online dating a try?

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When looking for people online you can always check out free adult dating sites for singles. But make sure it is an absolutely free dating site

Here are some online dating tips to keep in mind as you get to the person you may soon be dating.

1. Keep The Conversation Simple

This is a must when you are dating online. You can not get to know them if you have trouble carrying on a conversation. Be yourself and ask them questions to get the conversation started. Also be prepared to answer some questions about yourself. Doing this will make the conversation flow smoothly. This is also a good way to find out what you want to know about them to see if you want to date them in the future.

2. Do Not Be Afraid To Flirt A Little

This may sound a little crazy at first, but it is important when you are dating online. It is also much easier online than it is face to face with someone. Have some fun with it. Flirting is a part of the dating game both online or off. Plus flirting creates a curiosity about each other that makes you want to get to know them better.

3. It All Starts With Your Online Profile.

The screen name and profile that you put online in your profile tells people about you. The more information that you give them the more others will know about you. You can deal in generalities without divulging to much personal info at first.

Your written profile should give emphasis to your positives. This is what people use to decide if they want to date you.

4: You Are What You Are

Be yourself no matter what. This is one of the most important things that you can do. You are not trying to impress anyone. You are dating online to find that special person that you want to be with. Don’t lie or feel self conscious about online dating because there are people wanting to find you as much as you want to find them.

These are just a few useful online dating tips that you want to use when you are looking for someone special. Be yourself and trust your instincts and you will soon be on a date.

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